Landing at Hong Kong International – Our First Meeting

Posted on 30th November 2011 in Long Distance Relationships

Landing at Hong Kong International Airport was both an exciting and exhausting experience. Never flying for more than a couple of hours, 15 hours across the Pacific made for a rather nervous and stressful flight for this short haul junky. The excitement was such that sleep was impossible; the in flight entertainment system became my best friend. Wearied-eyed, sitting through 5 movies on the plane’s personal entertainment system, some computer work and a feeble attempt at sleep, my destination was within sight.

Viewing Hong Kong from the airplane’s approach path was impressive and awe-inspiring. The vast number of high rise buildings was unequal to any other city I have seen. At over seven million people, population wise, it was a couple of million fewer people than Los Angeles but seemed significantly larger. It appeared the city was not as spread-out as LA but instead built much more vertical and concentrated into a smaller space with lots of tall building housing not only businesses but many residential units.

De-boarding the plane, making my way through immigration and customs, I found myself experiencing something new.  As a non-international, non jetsetter with no frequent flyer miles to my name life had just become exceedingly exciting. I had no reason to be nervous about my trek through customs, as I had nothing questionable to declare other than my vitamins and supplements.  I was nervous though as I was not sure If I would be questioned about an unlabeled plastic bag of vitamin B capsules or some vitamin C powder I had in my bags in order to prevent getting sick while on my first meeting with the woman I was hoping to be the love of my life.  I didn’t quite know what to expect but after a few routine questions from immigration and customs agents regarding my stay and my luggage contents, I made it through without any problems.

As I walked through the cavernous Hong Kong Airport gates and terminal, I was amazed at the towering ceilings and the enormity of the airport structure along with the ultra-modern appointments throughout.  The gate concourses were so long, they seemed never-ending!  In pre smart phones and handheld GPS days, I realized there would probably be many challenges in this strange land over seven thousand miles away from my home, without the slightest idea of how to find my way around.  Sure I had some regular paper maps and other aids, but I felt rather overwhelmed at the prospects of navigating a city where it was becoming clear since my landing that most public employees did not speak my language.

I exchanged some U.S. dollars for Hong Kong dollars at the airport and felt my safest means of transportation would be a cab.  There was a high speed train that went directly from the airport to the downtown area, but I felt I should save that experience for the return trip home.  Finally finding my way to the transportation area of the airport I flagged-down one of the numerous airport cabs.

I had believed that Hong Kong, with status as an international megacity and being run by the British Government for so many years, would be more English language friendly. I was wrong!  Strangely enough, English is not spoken much in this country, not even by cab drivers or waitresses.  My budget was limited for this trip so my hotel was not one of the more notable large big-name chains, but rather a 3 to 4 star venue off the beaten track.  Communication with my cab driver was to a large extent non-existent; he didn’t know my obscure hotel location no matter how many ways I attempted to pronoun it.  I was forced to show him the map I had brought along of Hong Kong.  This proved to be the catalyst for discovery and we soon arrived at my home for the next week.

Driving in Hong Kong is similar to driving in England; they use the Great Briton system of driving on the left hand side of the road, with steering wheels positioned on the right side of the vehicles. This trip was turning out to be an adventure from the get-go; the cab driver had no idea where I wanted to go and was not able to communicate with me and as he was driving exceedingly fast (apparently for a big tip) I also felt as though around every turn would surely lead to my demise. You see, besides the disorientated feeling of being on the wrong side of the road, the cab driver felt for some reason, getting me to my destination as quickly as possible was the utmost of importance to me.

I tried to relax and take in some of the surroundings of this wonderful and uniquely different city. The city was generally clean and modern with little air pollution.  I was surprised, but came to find that all of the cabs and public transportation vehicles run on natural gas.  This seemed to have a significant improvement on the air quality, given the size of the city. For that I was happy as I was sensitive to pollution and bad airborne particulates.

Hong Kong is divided into two distinct large districts. The mainland side called Kowloon, in the heart of the action – close to the night markets, lots of busily congested streets thriving with numerous restaurants, bars, businesses and shopping.  And connected by a long undersea tunnel, is Hong Kong Island, with its high end stores, restaurants and the legendary towering business centers.  I chose the Kowloon side for both budgetary reasons and the close proximity to affordable shopping and general fun for tourists without limitless cash reserves. After checking into my hotel room in the heart of the, I proceeded over to Jewel’s hotel, a dozen blocks away by taxi cab.

The mega Asian city overloaded with red, white, blue neon signs everywhere in another language and character set was impressive and overwhelming to say the least; I could not read any of them nor did I know what kind of establishment each represented.  Inordinate displays of double deck busses and red and white government owned cabs were omnipresent.  As is the situation in most Asian countries, there were so many people on the streets it was difficult to navigate without bumping to someone.  This new and utterly fascinating experience was entrenching me in a case of sensory overload.  Combined with the high humidity, the stress of finally meeting my love from across the seas and the lack of sleep on the plane, I felt as if I was dreaming and this experience was becoming all too surreal.  For this U.S. boy being so far from home, surrounded by so many colorful signs in a language made-up of symbols that I only was familiar with from the streets of China Town in San Francisco, I was overwhelmed to say the least.  As I disembarked from the elevator and walked down the hallway of a rather dirty-floored and smelly second rate facility, I wondered if somehow, I was still engaged in a dream while on the plane.   No, this was not a dream, as I gazed at Jewel’s room number; it was all becoming very real!  There I was, almost 8000 miles from home ready to meet the woman I have been engaged in a wonderful virtual relationship with for the last 6 months.

Finally arriving at my sweetheart’s hotel room doorway, I was nervous as the sweat—partly due to my nervousness and the fact that Hong Kong was a rather humid place – was profusely dripping off of my head. It was rather embarrassing but I could wait no longer.  I knocked on the door, several times, but no answer. As I tried one more time, the door opened slowly. There she was, groggy, just waking from a nap.  She was petite, cute as can be, shy and full of the incredibly enthusiastic expressions I was privileged to view that first webcam session.  As I leaned over to give her a small kiss, she greeted me with a reciprocal kiss and a big enthusiastic hug.  We embraced for over a minute it seemed.  Eight months of anticipation, unending late night phone conversations, and what amounted to only a virtual relationship had finally become real.  We were both so happy to finally be in each other’s arms.

We were all hungry so our first order of business was to eat.  We proceeded to a rather fancy Chinese restaurant close to my hotel.  The hotel décor featured signature Chinese red gold motif with white tablecloths.  As we sat down in this large establishment filled with the noontime crowd we were handed our menus; it was then we all realized we were in trouble.  The menu was entirely written in Mandarin or Cantonese with non recognizable Chinese characters throughout.  We were looking around to see if there was anybody who spoke English to give us some assistance.  Most were Hong Kong business people and locals; they were all speaking a Chinese language.  When the waitress arrived, we were dumbfounded and didn’t know what to order.  Surely the waitress would speak English and assist us with our choices.   We were wrong on that account so we were forced to continue to look about the restaurant for help figuring out the menu; while Filipinos eat some different dishes, none of us wanted to end-up with boiled snake, deep-fried scorpions or eel for lunch.  Finally, a dignified looking couple from Europe – who seemed to have lots of experience in Hong Kong and a good grasp on the local language – noticed our travails and assisted us with our order.   When the order finally came, we were treated to an eclectic mix of dishes including one in particular that was the most interesting of them all.  Birds nest soup was set before us in a large bowl in the center of the table.  I was not too thrilled at eating this Chinese delicacy at first – but tried it anyway.  Rather slimy and thick, it tasted good once you got past the thick consistency of the soup mixture.  With the exception of the soup, we were forced to eat the rest of the meal with chopsticks, as there were no other utensils available.   I figured it would be a growth experience and tried my best, but most of the food ended up falling from my chopsticks back to my plate or worse yet – directly on the front of my shirt.

The following couple of days were spent with Jewel and her son Jesse experiencing all of the great tourist spots in Hong Kong including Ocean Park, an incredible huge salt water aquarium and amusement park, Victoria Peak, offering unreal vistas at the Sky Terrace, a wonderful tram ride and some of the finest shopping and restaurants in all of Hong Kong.  Jesse especially enjoyed the long suspended tram ride taking us over towering cliffs overlooking the China Sea.  We had to ride this very high and long ride in order to get to the peninsula where the Ocean Park aquarium was located. Jesse was our photographer taking lots of pictures documenting our experiences.   One of the best diners we all experienced was at the top of Victoria Peak.  A high-end outdoor restaurant served one of the best New York steaks in all of Hong Kong, cooked to perfection on an outdoor grill with all of the trimmings.

After the initial couple of days, Jesse returned to the Philippines as his high school classes were beginning. We were all sad to see him go and he obviously wanted to stay longer and see more sites but his schooling was more important.

Jewel and I continued our exciting discovery of Hong Kong, this time taking in more of the high end shopping and restaurants and more adult venues such as the art museums.  Luckily for us there was an exceptional impressionist exhibit featuring all of the great artists from that period such as Renoir and Monet.  I am not an art expert by any stretch of the imagination but Jewel was enthralled at seeing works of art from these greats as I was also.  It is not something we normally would do but it was fun nonetheless.  Being such pseudo art experts, we would carefully analyze all of the great works up close and personal, we pretended to know more than we actually did about the classic fine art before us.  The important thing was that we both began to see and understand why God had somehow reserved and preserved our long distance relationship for each other; we were happy in each other’s presence and thoroughly enjoyed doing similar things.

One evening we enjoyed a fantastic high-end Italian restaurant in one of the towering and exclusive business areas of Hong Kong. The waiters at this restaurant acted more like our personal butlers than our servers.  We felt like movie stars and both relished the attention; at least to a point – then it became utterly laughable. The waiter’s eyes were continually trained on us and our every move was watched closer than a cheetah seeking to kill an antelope for her family’s dinner on the plains of Kenya.  The stares caused us to feel as if we were doing something wrong or possible not dressed appropriately enough for this 5 star dining experience.  Actually the team of waiters was ultra-accommodating – so much so that if we took one sip of water from our glass they would be there to fill it immediately. When we would get up to go to the restroom, the waiter was there to remove our napkin from our laps and neatly fold it; then, on returning to our table, they would pull our chair out for us and place our napkin back in our laps and ask if everything was alright.   I accidentally dropped a brochure from an attraction on the floor; one of the waiters was instantly there picking it up prior to me even noticing the item fell.  Now, I like great service as much as anybody else, but when a waiter instantly sweeps-up a few crumbs that fall to the ground from a breadstick a little broom and dustpan, it gets to be a little much.  We both got the biggest kick out of this and made many jokes at the waiter’s expense.  Luckily they did not understand English at all.  As an appetizer they sat a large bowl of grapes in front of us that was consistently and incessantly replenished by our waiter friends.  These were not ordinary grapes though; they had been marinated in brandy.  They were so delicious; we could not stop eating them!  We didn’t actually believe we could get drunk on marinated grapes – but we did.  The jokes and mimicking of our waiters grew increasingly loud; we were actually getting out of control and acting more like rude teenagers getting high on pot than adults at a high-end Italian eatery.  This added to our fun and laughter and made for a fun and memorable experience that we still talk about today.

We walked and walked for miles; we were ready for a rest.  We stopped at a cultural park to enjoy the unique Chinese statutes and wonderful green gardens.  Jewel at this time was very weary, her feet tired and aching from her new shoes.  I sat down on a park bench and waited for my sweetheart to sit down beside me.  Instead, she stretched-out on the park bench with her head in my lap, I began to stroke her back and caress her hair.  Birds were singing and the humid air began to grow cooler as a breeze blew through the park. We were both so happy and fulfilled being together enjoying this special moment in an exciting international, world-class city.  While the park experience may sound simple and ordinary on paper, we talk about this moment often and recall it as a special time God gave us to remember forever.

As we continued our sightseeing mission of Hong Kong, it was inevitable we would stubble upon the Rodeo Drive equivalent area of this fabulous city. We entered a high-end mall featuring all of the top designer brands such as Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Prada.  The Gucci store in particular caught my sweetheart’s eye.  Casually walking into the store known for its Italian designer handbags, I was struck by a feeling of somehow not belonging.  Not being a multi millionaire, a New York model or Hollywood actor, I had little exposure in this world of high society.  Surely these purses must be only a little more expensive than the handbags found at JC Penny’s or Target.  Then again, looking at all of the marble in the store, the décor and general atmosphere, it felt awfully lavish.   The fact there were no prices on the bags, many displayed on separate little pedestals, should have given me a clue as to the price of these highly appreciated Italian masterpieces.  My girl was thrilled to be in an actual Gucci franchise store and I didn’t want to spoil the moment for her.  I played along, pretending to feel natural in this setting. I allowed her to look and ask the salesperson lots of questions as I nervously paced back and forth.  I was actually making every possible attempt to wander through the store’s doors into the general mall area and thought my sweetheart would somehow see my nervousness and follow. My attempt at redirecting our path was not working.  Jewel, being an attractive woman in her late thirties, working in sales and marketing in the corporate world of Manila, naturally appreciated the finer things in life.  She fell in love with one of the handbags that was similar to a colleague back at work, nicknamed: “The Gucci Girl.”  Obviously, she was given this nickname by her fellow sales associates due to her extensive collection of Gucci purses; this girl spent a significant budget on designer accessories.  Wanting to impress my girl, and seeing the look on Jewel’s face resulted in the following words emanating from my mouth: “Go ahead and buy that one.”   As the saleslady rang-up the total, I was shocked to find it was about the same price of my round trip airline ticket from San Francisco to Hong Kong.  Being a practical kind of guy I was rather taken back, but nothing was too good for my girl!  The credit card made it a little easier, but I never thought a purse – normally a forty to seventy dollar item at a regular store – could come close to the price of a round trip plane ticket to a destination halfway around the world.

As each of these initial days of our physical relationship ended – days filled with togetherness, fun and excitement and we were in each other’s arms, we both realized it was one day closer to having to say goodbye.  We both realized deep down – due to the extreme distances and expense – when we would see each other again.  When it finally came time for Jewel and me to part and return to our respective countries, we both were divested!  I could not begin to relate the sickening feeling that overcame both of us as reality sank in at the Hong Kong Airport.   We both cried at the airport and on the plane home but another day beckoned for the continuation of our relationship.

 

Meeting My Long Distance Love

Posted on 10th October 2011 in Long Distance Relationships

Having a close call in a helicopter on a remote mountain top somewhere in Utah while on duty for my job as a microwave radio technician several years ago caused me to think twice prior to jumping on board a 747 and flying across the Pacific for 15 hours to finally meet this wonderful girl.  But the emotional and love connection between Jewel and me had grown far beyond the virtual world of the Internet. We had discussed every aspect of politics, religion, life, living and world views.  The alignment of our minds and souls left little doubt; it was time to meet in person.  After 6 months of wonderful soul-baring phone and email discussions and the always greatly anticipated internet café webcam meetings, we were ready to find out if the sparks were there in person.

With recent news of Islamist separatist groups based in and around the southern Philippines kidnapping close to a couple dozen people from the Dos Palmas resort just north of Puerto Princesa City on the legendary and remote island paradise of Palawan in the Philippines, my friends here in the states were questioning my sanity in actually traveling to this remote and foreign country we knew little about.  Personally, I was beginning to have doubts as to the strength of my resolve in making a trip to the Philippines. After all, several of the kidnapped tourists were Americans and this world-class resort had been a paradise destination for movie stars and the rich and previously been considered entirely safe.

But life without Jewel was becoming increasingly difficult; I only wanted to finally meet this person in the flesh to see if we were truly compatible and able to deal with each other’s idiosyncrasies when the great distances were removed and we were face to face.  As the Philippine terrorist news events continued to become more and more of a concern and I had no clue as to what to expect in a third world country almost 8000 miles from home, I was torn and troubled as to what I should do.  I only wanted to finally meet and be with this girl whom, strangely enough, given the almost 8000 mile distance, I had grown extremely close to and felt a strong connection with.

Since Jewel was not a 6 foot 3 inch white guy; standing-out like a fox in a henhouse, she could not begin to understand the way I felt.  This tall, white guy preparing to go to an Asian country with recent news events involving kidnappings of Americans was not in any way relatable to her.  Jewel had trouble understanding my trepidation in making a trip to the Philippines.  She had told me the incident in the southern island area was a mere isolated situations and nothing for me to worry about.  She said I would not be traveling to such remote, exotic places but rather to the big city of Manila which was full of expats and foreigners. The term she used was O.A., which stood for over acting, a common expression in the Philippines used to describe those who made a big deal out of an otherwise typical and simple situation.  How could I be considered an O.A. individual in the eyes of my distant and adorable sweetheart?  We had one of our first disagreements and issue of contentions over this difference in perception.  We would have to come up with a workable solution to this dilemma that was agreeable to both Jewel and me and one additional person.

Jewel was a single mom and had a very intelligent and sensitive 14 year old son named Jesse who was also becoming significantly important in my life.  The fact that he was a part of Jewel made him important to me.  Desiring to be a good father figure to him, and accept him as a son, I regularly emailed, talked with and sent gifts to Jesse.  He and I would routinely discuss current events and such issues as computers and technology, politics and areas of interest in the Philippines.  I wanted him to be part of our lives and not feel threatened by a new man in his mother’s life.  Even though I had never traveled longer than a 2 hour plane trip from my home, I was about to embark on a 15 hour trip across the Pacific in a land of enchantment and wonder in order to meet these two important people in my life.

Even though Jewel thought of my trepidation in going to her home country of the Philippines as not justified, I simply did not have any experience whatsoever with travel to such distant and unknown locations; on the advice of family and friends who thought I had a death wish, I also wanted to be careful for their sake, so I decided on the next best meeting spot not far from where Jewel and Jesse lived, Hong Kong.  I arranged plane tickets for both Jewel and Jesse to meet me in what I believed to be a safer and more modern country where I wound not be worried about being abducted and kidnapped by some fanatical extremist group.  We were all were exceedingly excited to finally meet sometime around Valentine’s Day for an introduction and 7 days of fun and sightseeing in this former British colony almost 8000 miles from my home.

Reaching out across the Pacific

Posted on 2nd October 2011 in Long Distance Relationships

Reaching out across the Pacific to a new friend proved to be every part of interesting, inspiring, provocative, rewarding, enlightening and filled with childlike excitement at simple thought of an email from Jewel in my inbox.  Initially, we would leverage the degree of safety and anonymity the separation email offered.  We could go on for pages of typed text detailing our life story to each other, exchanging likes and dislikes, interesting family issues and anecdotal stories with each other. As we graduated from offering our opinions on current events to discussing such important life-core issues as our faith, politics and those ever-present mistakes that lead to growth and understanding, we both came to realize there was something right with the cosmos, someone, obviously much bigger than ourselves – and with a plan much larger than we could imagine – had brought us together.

As we gradually gathered the needed resolve to take a closer step, I began burning-through long-distance phone calling cards with enough vigor to buy a 5 course meal for two at fine dining French restaurant each day.  As voice conversations replaced emails, we began to find ourselves incredibly aligned with each others ideals and general world views.   We had both suffered through painful previous relationships and had both come to understand the utter importance of forgiveness and grace as part of the human experience.

As a long-distance relationship on the phone left much to be desired, we were in need of an elevated means of connection. As numerous lovesick individuals were beginning to discover during this time-frame of social and technological evolution, some face-to-face time using the increasingly-popular computer webcam seemed like the next logical step for us.

Jewel lacked a webcam on her computer and needed to make use of the growing Philippines phenomenon called the Internet café – a storefront with a group of Internet connected computers available for rental on a per minute basis – in order for me to see her face in full motion for the first time.  I had never heard of such a business – a cultural difference to be sure – but waited with anxious childlike enthusiasm as Jewel made a trip to a café not far from her apartment.

I’ll never forget the first time my eyes feasted on seeing this girl in full video animation.  The extreme expressiveness and sheltered beauty shone forth as an accurate testament to her name.  At that moment, and in every regard, she had become a full-spectrum jewel to me.  I was delighted in her extreme expressiveness; her shy yet boldly confident and strong exterior demeanor spoke volumes of her protective nature giving way to a sensitive and somehow insecure inner world.  I was thoroughly fascinated and instantly in a state of trance.  I could not get enough of looking at her as I enjoyed the many absorbing and communicative faces of Jewel.  It was like looking at a kaleidoscope of interesting characters all wrapped-up into one person. Her facial expressions became increasingly enchanting to me in each new progression of our virtual video relationship.

Here we were, Jewel in her mid-thirties and me in my mid-forties, acting like eighteen year-old teenagers in the throes of their first relationship.  So much for all of the personal growth.  Life with Jewel had graduated to the point of anxiously coming home from work each day, sitting in front of the computer or phone and communicating for countless unrealized hours, usually staying up later than most people did when they were young and vibrant party animals.   We were becoming hopelessly in love, and knew that a physical meeting was in order.

Introduction and a Path Towards Growth

Posted on 27th September 2011 in Long Distance Relationships

Over the last several previous years, I found myself on a path of maturity-building and self-realization through church groups and other meetings focusing on personal growth, understanding of personal issues and marriage and relationship seminars.  Such authors as John Bradshaw (a Catholic psychologist and human behavior author) Gary Smalley (celebrated Christian relationship coach and author), Dr. John Gray (Men are from Mars Women are from Venus fame) and John Gottman (author of The Relationship Cure) had become my mentors.  Following a previously lost 6 year relationship – which I admittedly was in large-part responsible for the failure of – I wanted to ensure I had the greatest chance possible at being the best partner for my future mate. I wholeheartedly wanted a lifelong, committed relationship that would be the final one – broken hearts and traumatic and dysfunctional relationships were even a vague consideration for me any longer.  I understood that in order for a complete relationship to occur, I needed to look hard and close at myself and deal with my issues.  Life to me was now worthless without a committed, mature, meaningful and loving relationship; I wanted a soul mate that was willing to grow with me in a lifelong path of understanding, grace, growth and committed partnership.

Jewel was working as an account executive for a large, well-known logistics company in the Philippines and I had my own website design and marketing company. My best friend Doug had married a Filipina girl and was happy – he suggested I also should consider such a potential relationship.  Doug wanted me to initiate communication with Jewel, a friend of Ambrosia his wife, still living in the Philippines.  Ambrosia and Jewel had worked together for the large logistics company for many years and had attended Bible study groups together.

As I pondered my friend’s proposal, I wondered how a relationship could possibly work separated by something as vast as the Pacific Ocean?  After all, what does a California born and raised simple guy like me know about the culture of a Southeast Asian country anyway?  Could I endure a 16 hour flight, not including layovers, just to meet this person?  The furthest I’d traveled from my home state of California was to Utah, and perhaps a couple of trips to Tijuana for some Mexican food and shopping.   All I knew of the Philippines was the impressive shoe collection of Imelda Marcos discovered, and displayed to the world over the news media shortly after the freedom fighters overthrew the repressive Marcos dictatorial regime in the late 1980s.

So there I was, the product of a previously failed relationship, going through the online dating service reviews, occasionally trying a few dates here and there with help from eHarmony Dating and Perfectmatch Dating, when I am presented with a rather novel idea; date a girl from an entirely unfamiliar country, halfway around the world, with traditions and customs I knew absolutely nothing about.

As I considered such a far-reaching possibility, I found myself, intrigued, engaged in a daydream, thinking about an exotic and remote tropical island paradise, an ally of the U.S., with an interesting WW-II history.  After all I thought, I had all of this growth and wisdom of numerous years of relationship and personal growth classes under my belt.  What are a few cultural differences and traditions between partners, aren’t we are all basically the same deep-down?  Why not experience something totally beyond the scope of my routine and predictable California lifestyle? Why not travel to a part of the world I had never in a million years would have thought I would go?

As a virtual tourist, I had enjoyed numerous travel logs by such personalities as Anthony Bourdain and Andrew Zimmern and many others.  But I thought, was I ready to eat insects and eggs with unborn chickens while risking Malaria and Dengue Fever?  I gathered my thoughts once again and did some additional thinking.  I was a tall and extremely white – even pale American – who stood out like a worker in a white tuxedo operating the tomato smashing machine in a catchup factory.  What about the dangers of terrorists and kidnapers?  Would I be safe in such a place?  With recent news headlines of Americans captured and tortured by Al Qaeda loyalists in the southern Philippines, was I ready to risk such extremes?  Were the Northern Philippines – where Jewel lived – safer than the Southern area which seemed to be in the grips of some kind of ongoing civil war?

As I accepted my friends challenge to contact and pursue this rather exotic and somewhat scary relationship, was I ready for something so unknown in my life? A chance at a compatible, lifelong relationship in a foreign land; to experience what may as well have been Alpha Centauri – a mere 4.24 light years away?  The saga of Jewel and Rudy was about to unfold, and I had many exciting and profound experiences ahead of me.

Relationship Across the Seas

Posted on 16th September 2011 in Long Distance Relationships

This blog will explore relationship issues pertaining to long-distance, divergent-country love affairs and the cultural differences inherent and surely guaranteed with such relationships.  The stories, situations and struggles contained in this blog can be thought of as real-life learning experiences gained by an actual married couple struggling with complex cultural differences.  In baring our lives on this blog, we hope to encourage and bring enlightenment to others going through similar culturally-diverse relationships and help to provide the insight needed to become the best they can be for each other.

This is the love story of Rudy, the writer of this blog, and Jewel, his lovely Filipina wife.  Rudy, initially from the Los Angeles, California area, transplanted to a medium sized town in Oregon, and Jewel from the Pampanga province in the nation of the Philippines, well over 7000 miles away, now happily married and living together with her husband Rudy in Oregon.

Our story is one of two souls desperately desiring a compatible soul mate and lifelong partner.  The story is filled with funny and unique circumstances and situations that take the reader through numerous peaks and valleys, happiness and misunderstandings and the eventual consummation of two individuals and two very different and diverse cultures.

Follow our stories here on a pathway of growth and gain a greater understanding of the struggles that are part of the convergence of two cultures.  Enjoy learning and living vicariously through our gained insight into the complexities of intercontinental relationship.

While I attempt to present our love story in chronological order, but not all of the blog entries you will find here are not necessarily all in order of sequence.  These accounts are short and easily read anecdotal stories and many times funny and amusing situations extracted from our lives.